Updated: Apr 27
Right now, take a moment and ask yourself, 'do I make people happier entering the room or leaving it?' Ask yourself, 'do I see the best in people or the worst in people?' Ask yourself, 'how do I want to show up for myself and others?'
Once you have determined how you want to be seen and remembered, allow that to be your guiding light as you move through life. When fear shows up in various cloaks (anger, frustration, unworthiness, hurt, etc.), I encourage you to recenter yourself into who you want to be. I am not asking you to remove fear-based thoughts, words, and actions from your life, as fear can catapult you into a deeper understanding of what you do want in your life by knowing what you don't want. I am asking you to be intentional with how you want to be remembered. Be intentional about what you value, who you value, and how you show up in celebration and sorrow.
I want to be remembered fondly whether I saw you yesterday, six months ago, or at the end of this lifetime. I want to be remembered as someone who lived open-hearted, open-armed, and open-minded. I want to be remembered as someone kind, compassionate, and LOVING. I want to be remembered as someone who grew better from her hurts and not bitter from them. I want to be remembered as someone who puts a smile on others' faces and frankly as funny. 🙂 I want to be remembered as someone who stood faithful to her values and what she sincerely believed. I want to be recognized as a trailblazer. I want to be remembered as someone who, even though she was scared of her dreams, went after them anyway. I want to be remembered as the brave me; the scared me, the funny me, the impatient me, the positive trainer me, the peace activator me, and mostly to be remembered as the hugging me.
Moving forward, I encourage you to discover how you want to be remembered by:
Being kinder to you! Let go of the 'I should have been in your life by knowing wherever you are in this very moment is exactly where you should be. Be you now! Don't wait to be you when you are in the right job, have the right home, or the right relationship.
Remembering recent interactions with your family, your friends, and your colleagues. Are you bringing your heart to the table in these conversations? Or are you bringing your hurt to the table? Most likely, it's both depending on the day, but know who you are showing up as by paying attention to your feelings.
Remembering whatever conversation you are having indeed could be the last time you speak with that person. Is how you were in that conversation how you want to be remembered? We all get angry, yet we don't have to act upon it. Be aware of who is showing up as you.
Writing your eulogy on how you want to be remembered. Once you've written it, ask yourself if that is true today?
Mostly, I want you to remember how precious life is and to make every moment count. The celebrations and the sorrows. The laughter and the tears. The adventure and the mundane. All of it is precious and fragile.
Until next time, I will remember you fondly.
I will remember to be kind, compassionate, and LOVING.
Words to LOVE By:
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. ~ Steve Jobs
The key to immortality is first living a life worth remembering. ~ Bruce Lee
That is your legacy on this Earth when you leave this Earth: how many hearts you touched.
~ Patti Davis