How do you want to be remembered? I don’t just mean when you transition, but how do you want to be remembered right in this moment? Do you want to be remembered as a lover or a fighter? Do you want to be remembered for standing up for love or standing up for fear? Do you want to be remembered as being quiet or being loud? Do you want to be remembered as a perfectionist or someone who was flawed yet continued to grow? It is all a choice, and yes, it’s not always an easy choice, yet it is still a choice.
Right now, take a moment and ask yourself ‘do I make people happier entering the room or leaving it?’ Ask yourself ‘am I seeing the best in people or the worst in people?’ Ask yourself ‘how do I want to show up for myself and others?’
Once you have determined how you want to be seen and remembered, allow that to be your guiding light as you move through life. When fear shows up in a variety of cloaks (anger, frustration, unworthiness, hurt, etc.) recenter yourself into who you want to be. I am not asking you to remove fear based thoughts, words, and actions from your life completely as fear can catapult you into a deeper understanding of what you do want in your life by knowing what you don’t want. I am asking you to be intentional with how you want to be remembered. Be intentional about what you value, who you value, and how you show up in celebration and sorrow.
I want to be remembered fondly whether I saw you yesterday, six months ago, or at the end of this lifetime. I want to be remembered as someone who lived open hearted, open armed, and open minded. I want to be remembered as someone who was kind, compassionate, and loving. I want to be remembered as someone who grew better from her hurts and not bitter from them. I want to be remembered as someone who put a smile on others face, and frankly as funny. 🙂 I want to be remembered as someone who stood true to her values and what she deeply believed in. I want to be remembered as a trailblazer. I want to be remembered as someone who was scared of her dreams and yet went after them anyway. I want to be remembered as being me – the brave me, the scared me, the funny me, the impatient me, the positive trainer me, the peace activator me, and mostly to be remembered as the hugging me.
Moving forward, I encourage you to discover how you want to be remembered by:
Being kinder to you! Let go of the ‘I should have’s’ in your life by knowing wherever you are in this very moment is exactly where you should be. Be you now! Don’t wait to be you when you are in the right job, have the right home, or the right relationship.
Remembering recent interactions with your family, your friends, and your colleagues. Are you bringing your heart to the table in these conversations? Or are you bringing your hurt to the table? Most likely it’s both depending on the day, but know who you are showing up as by paying attention to your feelings.
Remembering whatever conversation you are having truly could be the last time you speak with that person. Is how you were in that conversation how you want to be remembered?We all get angry, yet we don’t have to act upon it. Be aware of who is showing up as you.
Writing your own eulogy on how you want to be remembered. Once you’ve written it, ask yourself if that is true today?
Mostly, I want you to remember how precious life is and to make every moment count. Live boldly. Love deeply. Laugh loudly. Hug intently. Smile brightly.
Until next time, I will remember you fondly.
I will remember to be kind, compassionate, and loving.
Words to Live By:
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. ~ Steve Jobs
The key to immortality is first living a life worth remembering. ~ Bruce Lee
That is your legacy on this Earth when you leave this Earth: how many hearts you touched. ~ Patti Davis
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