Is Your Mind Made Up?

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So, you know you want to live a life filled with deeper love, laughter and happiness. Have you made up your mind on what that looks like for you?

I live and breathe positivity as I coach on it, I write about it, I speak about it, and I consciously choose to live it. So, my mind is made up right? Wrong! Well it’s mostly made up as I know my passion and purpose. I know the types of people I want in my life at a deeper level. I know things I want to experience in my life.

Even with that clarity, my mind can become foggy when I step into fear (how is it going to happen, when is it going to happen, who is it going to happen with). Fear will say I’m not getting there fast enough. Fear will say I’m not helping enough people quick enough. Fear will question my decisions.

As you’ve heard me say many times before, fear is a good thing as we can figure out what we want by knowing what we don’t want. Fear can play a part in your decisions, when you come from the space of ‘this isn’t what I want, now what do I want’. So rather than run from fear, allow it to help you make up your mind on what you do want by knowing what you don’t want.

Moving forward, when fear visits, return to love by:

Allowing the contrast to bring clarity! Again, knowing what you don’t want allows you to turn it around and see what you do want. Let fear visit, just don’t invite it to move in.

Broadening your dreams: See it, imagine it, speak about your life dream’s and include at the end this or something better for the highest good of all involved. We can only see what we see and there is so much more out in the world that we’re not even aware of, so allow yourself to have the vision unfold in different ways than you thought while knowing it will be great.

Being gentle with yourself: by knowing every experience offers growth whether through celebration or sorrow. Remind yourself what might feel like a setback is truly a new opportunity to see things differently and expand the view from a new vantage point.

Focusing on how you feel. When you are focusing on a clear vision, you most likely get very excited about it. However sometimes that is when fear visits, so go back to how that dream makes you feel rather than what it looks like. If I’m dreaming of a new home, rather than thinking about how big it is, where it’s at, etc. I will return to how I feel in it, cozy, happy, safe and inspired. When you focus on a relationship, rather than focusing on a person, focus on how you want to feel in that relationship.

Appreciating what is: Appreciation and gratitude are big in my life and are probably the biggest tools I use on stepping out of fearful thoughts. When I get frustrated with a person or an experience, I ask myself to think of three things I appreciate about that person or the experience as it shifts me back to love. I am grateful for the smallest things in my life that are easy to take for granted such as breathing on my own, my body working for me, a comfy bed to sleep in, etc.

Mostly, remember whether your mind is crystal clear or foggy on what your dream life looks like, know it’s all part of the process of living! Know that contrast brings clarity, your are worthy of your dreams, gentleness for yourself and others is important, feel it out, and appreciate your yesterdays, your today and your tomorrows.

Until next time, be mindful of filling yourself with love, kindness, compassion, laughter, hugs, health, and abundance.


My mind is filled with loving and kind thoughts for myself and others.

Words to Live By:

Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret to success.” ~ Swami Sivananda

“Your mind is everything. What you think you become.” ~ Buddha

“MY dear friend, clear your mind of can’t.” ~ Samuel Johnson

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