Even with that clarity, my mind can become foggy when I step into fear (how is it going to happen, when is it going to happen, who is it going to happen with). Fear will say I’m not getting there fast enough. Fear will say I’m not helping enough people quick enough. Fear will question my decisions.
As you’ve heard me say many times before, fear is a good thing as we can figure out what we want by knowing what we don’t want. Fear can play a part in your decisions, when you come from the space of ‘this isn’t what I want, now what do I want’.
When fear visits me, here are some tools I use to return to love:
Contrast brings clarity! Again knowing what I don’t want allows me to turn it around and see what I do want. Let fear visit, just don’t invite it to move in.
Broadening my dream: I love to vision, imagine and speak about my life’s dreams and always include at the end this or something better. I can only see what I see and there is so much more out in the world that I’m not even aware of, so I allow myself to have the vision unfold in different ways than I think and yet know it will be great.
Being gentle with myself: by knowing every experience offers growth whether through celebration or sorrow. I remind myself what might feel like a setback is truly a new opportunity to see things differently and expand the view from a new vantage point.
Feelings, feelings, feelings: When I am focusing on a clear vision I most often get very excited about it. However sometimes that is when fear visits so I go back to how that dream will make me feel rather than what it looks like. If I’m dreaming of a new home, rather than thinking about how big it is, where it’s at, etc. I will return to how I feel in it, cozy, happy, safe and inspired. When you focus on a relationship, rather than focusing on a particular person, focus on how you want to feel in that relationship.
Appreciate what is: Appreciation and gratitude are big in my life and are probably the biggest tool I use on stepping out of fearful thoughts. When I get frustrated with a person or an experience, I ask myself to think of three things I am grateful for about that person or the experience as it shifts me back to love. I appreciate the smallest things in my life that are easy to take for granted such as breathing on my own, my body working for me, etc.
So whether your mind is crystal clear or foggy on what your dream life looks like, know it’s all part of the process of living! Know that contrast brings clarity, even if you think your dream is big, bigger is out there, gentleness for yourself and others is important, feel it out and appreciate your yesterdays, your today and your tomorrows.
Until next time, be mindful of filling yourself with love, kindness, compassion, laughter, hugs, health, and abundance.
~ Swami Sivananda“Your mind is everything. What you think you become.”
“MY dear friend, clear your mind of can’t.”
~ Samuel Johnson