Are you living your potential? Well, I suspect in some ways you are and in other ways you are not as we all deal with worthiness issues in different areas of our lives. As a positivity coach, I work with my clients on personal and professional wishes and yet it ultimately comes down to feeling worthy of living our dreams.
Now living our own potential is within our control, but what about when we see the potential in others? Potential that perhaps they don’t see yet? I’ve been thinking a lot about potential lately due to a recent conversation with a dear friend. She said that I see the potential in people and not necessarily who they are showing up as in the moment. She meant it as a compliment and as a warning. Let me explain. I see the bigness in people – their heart, their spirit and soul. I overlook the smallness of their hurt, their fear, and their worry. And this isn’t a judgment on ‘good’ or ‘bad’ as it’s just who we are in the moment. Big our highest self. Small our scared little self.
We continued to discuss potential for a while and whether there is a difference between potential and living your highest self. Now, I love seeing the best in people and know anytime we aren’t coming from our highest self it is due to fear…including me. I was intrigued, and to be honest, a little irritated that she was ‘warning’ me on seeing the best in people. I brought another good friend into the conversation and she made it even clearer by asking me ‘can you love this man for who he is showing up as right now and not the person you see in him?’ It was a great reminder that although seeing the best in others is a great thing, you need to let people be who they are right in this very moment – the good parts, the not-so-good parts, the happy parts, and the sad parts.
You can see the potential, or higher self, in others and hold that vision for them. And yet, you cannot make them see it in themselves as they are on their own journey of self-discovery. We need to let people be who they are, even if it appears to be a path of struggle. You can offer help, make suggestions, hold the highest intentions for them…AND be willing to let them choose for themselves. Your choice is how much are you willing to participate with them and remain in a space of love.
This situation reminded me to step back into unconditional love as I was unconsciously putting conditions on being a ‘better’ friend. So yes, I can love him unconditionally while choosing how much I want to participate. His choices have nothing to do with love, yet have a lot to do with participation.
Moving forward, choose to see the best in others while allowing them to be whoever they need to be by:
Seeing their truth right now. Whether it’s self-doubt, lack of commitment, or whatever they are going through that isn’t from their highest self, see it, allow it, and love it. In truth, they are exactly who they need to be in this moment even if it’s not what you know them to be.
Asking yourself ‘can you love them for who they are and not for who you see them to be?’ If the answer is yes, continue to participate in the relationship with eyes wide open. If it’s hard for you to separate who they are and who you see, then perhaps you will want to lessen your direct participation with them.
Remembering that life is a journey. Often, we want to soften the blow and/or stop it from happening completely with those we care deeply for. And yet, it’s in those life moments that we learn what we are made of and grow in ways that wouldn’t happen if we didn’t walk through it personally.
Loving them anyway. Unconditionally love people and you can set conditions with how much you are willing to participate with them. Sometimes it’s easier to love people from afar…only you know what you are willing and able to do.
Mostly, my wish is for you to be gentle with yourself knowing that we are each doing the best we can in each moment from our own experiences. Be loving. Be kind. Be compassionate. See your own potential of being love, kindness, and compassion in action while allowing others to journey on their own path.
Until next time, you are loved…wherever you are on your journey.
PS: I would love to know your thought on potential and higher self, so comment below.
I choose to live my highest self while allowing others to live their journey
Words to live by:
“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” – Dalai Lama
“When you catch a glimpse of your potential, that’s when passion is born.” ~ Zig Ziglar
“Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!” ~ Anne Frank
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