Are you happy? What kind of question is that?? It almost seems like a loaded question, doesn’t it? Well are you? You’ve heard it all before – happiness comes from within, you are as happy as you want to be, or happiness is a choice. I fully believe in those statements and yet also know it’s not always easy.
I feel the word happy is similar to positive and that people seem to think they can’t exist in reality. If you are currently going through a challenge in your life, how can you possibly be happy or positive? People who are always positive or always happy are deemed unrealistic, living in a fairyland, etc. Well, I can’t speak for everyone, but I can speak for myself. Although I am not ‘always’ happy and positive, I spend the majority of my time in that space – especially when things are going great. And then when I’m dealing with a challenge, I dig deeper to find the happy positive moments in the challenge while allowing myself to feel whatever I’m dealing with – sadness, hurt, frustration, etc. Rather than focusing on a friends serious illness, I focus on the laughter and memories we share and bring happiness to the healing. Rather than focusing on why a relationship didn’t work, I focus on what happiness did occur and bring that into my next relationships. We all experience a variety of emotions and all are valid, the choice is to choose the ones that uplift and inspire us to be our predominant feelings. And yes, sometimes it requires more work.
Happiness doesn’t have to be some major event in your life, nor does it need to be elusive. The more you spend time focusing on the smallest things in your life with gratitude, the easier it is to live predominately in happiness. The more you focus on what is good about today rather than worrying about how to make tomorrow better, you will be in a state of mind to create better tomorrows. The more you focus on internal happiness on being alive, breathing on your own, smiling, etc, the more your external world will emulate your internal happiness and in the times it doesn’t, it won’t have the power to suck you into unhappiness.
Moving forward, create more happiness in your life by:
Remembering others don’t make your happiness, however they can enhance it.
Starting to say ‘that makes me happier’ rather than that makes me ‘happy’. That small change empowers you to stay in charge of your own happiness rather than other people or experiences.
Knowing it’s okay to be sad, frustrated, angry etc and the more you allow yourself to feel the emotions without acting upon them, the quicker you will return to happiness. It’s during our times of challenges that truly allow us to fully appreciate our celebrations. They all serve a purpose in our happiness.
Mostly, my wish is for you to realize that happiness comes in moments and builds upon each other. A shared smile, a kind word, a friendly gesture, these small acts are all part of being happy. Big life events of job promotions, weddings, births etc broaden happiness, yet its the moment by moments of appreciating being alive is where happy lives.
Until next time – you are so worthy of being happy right now!
PS: I just watched the movie Hector and the Search for Happinessfor the fourth time that inspired this weeks message. It is such a great movie that I highly recommend. Here are just some of the happiness tips from the movie:
- Making comparisons can spoil your happiness
- A lot of people think happiness is being richer or more important
- Many people only see happiness in their future
- Avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness
- Does the person bring you predominately up – or down?
- Happiness is answering your calling
- Happiness is being loved for who you are
- Fear is an impediment to happiness
- Happiness is feeling completely alive
- Listening is loving
I choose happy thoughts, happy words and happy actions
Words to Live By:
“The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” ~ Dalai Lama
“Whoever is happy will make others happy too.” ~ Ann Frank
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