Do you live a comfortable life? I don’t mean monetarily; I mean do you play it safe? Do you stick with status quo even if you know that you could be happier? Many, not all, of the people I coach are in some form of transition of bettering their lives. Some involve leaving a situation to find a better one, while many others are enhancing where they currently are from relationships to work. And I tell each one of them that often people stay in uncomfortable situations longer than you would think because they know what is expected of them – even if they know they could be happier. Why? Because being uncomfortable often feels better than uncertainty. Well that is often true until uncertainty feels better than the discomfort.
Many people tell me that I live boldly and seemingly step out of my comfort zone easily. Well, I step out of their comfort zones easily, but I promise you I have my own and one came up this weekend. As you know, I’ve been offering free hugs for eight years now and it’s truly one of my favorite things I do. I’m usually the first one there and I wait until Tony (he always hugs with me) or others show up. Offering free hugs by myself is way out of my comfort zone. I’ve done it a couple of times for a few minutes when I can see Tony walking towards where we hug, but that’s about it. This weekend the discomfort of standing there waiting for other huggers was far greater than the fear of solo hugging…SO I DID IT! Watch the video below to see what happened to make me step out of fear and into love, but I will say it was so worth the experience!
Stepping out of your comfort zone could be very small things to big changes, but I encourage you to do it. Take a different route to work. Switch up your routine. Let someone that you care about know that you care even if you aren’t sure if it’s mutual. Risk your heart. Risk looking like a fool. Take a risk and you just might find it was the best thing you could have done.
Moving forward step out of your comfort zone by:
Being brave! If you want it, go for it. You can come up with a thousand reasons not to, but if it’s something that keeps you up at night, you think about it a lot, then take a risk and go for it. Say ‘THIS OR SOMETHING BETTER’ and show up for you! The answer is no if you don’t ask.
Listening to your gut. Fear is not a bad thing as sometimes it is truly telling us that this isn’t the person or the situation for us. Listen to your gut to know if it’s fear of uncertainty or if it’s truly not the right time, person or place to go for it.
Being okay if the results are less than stellar. If there are other people involved in your desires, you cannot control if what you want is best for them too, but wouldn’t you rather know than the ‘what ifs’ a year from now, 5 years, 10 years? There are an abundance of job opportunities, love interests, or anything that you heart desires if you don’t label with specifics, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give it your all.
Mostly, my wish is for you to realize that you deserve to live boldly, love deeply, laugh loudly, hug intently and smile brightly. Don’t let fear of rejection or looking silly stop you from living full out. If they reject you, they don’t deserve you. So go be bold, be loving, be you – UNABASHADLY YOU!
Until next time live each day with awe and wonder.
I stretch myself daily to live life fully.
Words to Live By:
“A dream is your creative vision or your life in the future. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar and the unknown.” ~ Denis Waitley
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” ~ Brian Tracy
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